Login / Register

Emotional Reasoning and Borderline Personality Disorder

Thanks! Share it with your friends!


You disliked this video. Thanks for the feedback!

Sorry, only registred users can create playlists.

Added by in Board line


Order The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook by Dr. Fox: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Many individuals carry the false belief that because “I feel it so strongly, it must be true”. This is actually a pattern of problematic thinking, called Emotional Reasoning. These feelings are so intense, you just know inside they’re true, but there is no evidence to show they’re true.

Due to these overwhelming, unverified emotions you engage, act, and react sabotaging relationships and yourself. In this video we will discuss the problematic thinking type called emotional reasoning to help you identify it, challenge it, and control it to produce the best possible outcomes for yourself.

Emotional reasoning is just as I stated before, you feel something so strongly you believe it without question. Have you ever felt that someone was lying to you, cheating on you, just waiting to abandon you and though you had no evidence you just knew it to be true.

Let’s walk thought how to handle it:

Firstly, remember that because you feel it doesn’t make it true. If you have been Dx with a PD recognize your tendency for perceptual distortion in your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions.

Second, “slow your roll”, you have to slow down. Once you’re at full speed it’s hard to stop. If you decide to hit your breaks at 5 mph, it’s easy to control it, but if you decide to hit your brakes at 100 mph you’re really likely to crash and get hurt. “you’ve got to “slow your roll”.

Third, challenge your feelings. Ask yourself – if I feel this, causing me to think this, what makes it true? For example, you feel unloved and lonely, your thought is that you are worthless and have no value, as these feelings grow you become more locked into those beliefs and perhaps you engage in promiscuous or other self-destructive behavior. When you challenge these feelings and thoughts, you realize your friends love you, your boss and coworkers respect you, your therapist cares about you, etc. When you do that you are adding a rational component, a controlling component to how you see yourself, feel your feelings, and how you’ll respond.

Challenge your emotional reasoning and practice these 3 steps on a continual basis, not when triggered or when your emotional buttons are pressed but with feelings that are not as intense and overwhelming. Practice your skills so you’re ready when your engaged, if you don’t you can’t be expected to just be able to do it. Mental health strategies are like roller skating, the more you do the better you get at it.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available May 1, 2019, but you can order it now at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children: https://goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrDanielFox
Dr. Fox’s website: http://www.drdfox.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/appliedpsychservices/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrDanielJFox1
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdfox/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdfox
Amazon Author’s Page: amazon.com/author/drfox

Thank you for your attention and I hope you enjoy my videos and find them helpful and subscribe. I always welcome topic suggestions and comments.


Gagnon, J., Daelman, S., & McDuff, P. (2013). Correlations of Impulsivity with Dysfunctional Beliefs Associated with Borderline Personality. North American Journal of Psychology, 15: 165-178.

Post your comment


Be the first to comment